6/30/09

Jason called to let me know that he would be picking the boys up and bringing them over to eat. As I thought, Jamie has changed her mind. She has decided to let the boys start coming back every night to eat here and then go home in time for bed.
When Cameron came over he was excited that he was getting to come back every night. Mason is still to little to realize what is going on. He is just happy to see us.
Jason said Jamie still wants to do the every other weekend thing, so he will have the boys all this weekend.

6/29/09

5:00 PM Jason picked the boys up and brought them over to eat. It was great to see them as we had not seen them since the previous Thursday.

6/28/09

It has been a very quite weekend. The boys did not come over at all and we missed them very much.

6/25/09

Jason brought the boys over after he picked them up from daycare and the "Y. We had supper and then they played outside for a little while before Jason took them home. We probably won't get to see them again until sometime next week since this weekend is Jamie's weekend. Maybe she will decide that she wants to party after all and will want Jason to come get the boys. I can only hope.

6/23/09

Jason called to let me know that the boys would not be coming over to eat tonight. Apparently Jamie has decided that she will start picking them up and feeding them before putting them to bed. I think someone told her that she was not acting like a very good mother and it would not look very good when they went in front of a judge. Knowing Jamie though, I think that it won't last very long. She has gotten used to not having to cook for them at night and was able to relax for a couple of hours after work before she had to take care of the boys. Jason did say that he told her he wanted to get them at least one night a week.

6/22/09

6:00 PM Jason came home with the boys. While I made homemade pizzas for supper, Jason was again on the computer while the boys watched TV. They ate and left before 7:00. I don't know why Jason is in a hurry to take them home lately. I don't know what the problem is, but it has Rusty and I worried for the boys. They seem to be getting the short end of the deal in this divorce. Neither of their parents act as if they want children anymore. They have more important things to do than spend time with their children and that is very wrong.
I happened to meet my sister Kim at the store today and mentioned that Jason is acting strangely and I think he might have met someone and is not paying enough attention to his children. She said that if he is, it will probably only last a little while as most women wanted all the attention for the first few months. I said that was not right as his children should always come first.

6/21/09

7:00 Pawpaw took JJ to work today while I stayed at home with the boys. They slept in this morning since they had such a busy day yesterday.
8:30 The boys got up but were not in the best of moods again today. I fixed breakfast (grits, eggs, bacon and biscuits)and then gave them their baths.
11:00 Jason called and asked to speak to Cameron. He let him know that he would be home soon to take them out to eat lunch.
ll:30 Jason came home and Rusty and I left to go to the store. I decided he needed to spend some alone time with the boys.
12:15 When we came home from the store Jason and the boys were gone. We later learned that he had taken them to the mall and then to the movies.
4:00 Jason and the boys came home in time for lupper (between lunch and supper). After they ate, they played a little while until Jamie called to say Jason needed to bring the boys home.

6/20/09

I need to get something off my chest and feel that writing it down is the only way right now. Jason has always been a good father but lately has slipped in that department. I'm not sure what is going on, but he doesn't spend as much time with the boys as he used to. When they are here, he spends all his time either on the computer or talking on his cell phone while leaving Pawpaw and I to take care of the boys.
Earlier in the week he told me that Jamie had decided that he needed to keep the boys all weekend as she had something to do. And on Friday he called me and ask if Pawpaw and I could keep the boys on Saturday "night" as some of his high school friends had come to town (Auburn) for the weekend and wanted him to visit. He said that since it was an hour and a half round trip, he would stay in Auburn and come back on Sunday morning. I told him it was fine. This morning while I bathed the boys he let it slip that he was leaving a 1:00 to go to Auburn. Not once until then had he said anything about leaving that early.
I love Cameron and Mason and I love spending time with them but we are not their parents and one or both of them need to start acting like one. They both seem to think that since they are getting a divorce that they need a personal life. Well the boys did not ask to be brought into this world and it is their (Jason and Jamie) responsibility to take care of their children not mine and Rusty's.
I have also come to realize that a lot of Jason's and Jamie's problems were not all her fault. Jamie has never been a great housekeeper but she at least cleaned the house around the clutter but the last year or so had not lifted a finger to clean the house.
Since Jason has moved in with us, I now know that Jamie probably gave up as Jason is a slob. He never cleans his room. He leaves dirty clothes and dirty dishes laying around and never even offers to take out the trash.

6/20/09

6:00 AM Mason got up early this morning and watched TV with me until it was time to take JJ to work at 7:00. I had him get back in his bed and watch TV there until I came back. Once I came home and Cameron woke up, I fixed breakfast of pancakes and eggs. They both ate very well. At 10:45 I gave the boys a bath and washed their hair. They were both very dirty. When I asked Cameron how long it had been since he took a bath he said Monday or Tuesday. This does not surprise me.
11:30 I left to go pick JJ up from work while Jason finished getting the boys dressed. Once I came home, Rusty was home from work and I took my shower.
12:30 The boys and I left the house to left Pawpaw take a nap. We went to my mother's (MeMaw) apartment to feed the ducks, fish and turtles and to let the boys play at the playground.After we left the house I called Jason to remind him to pick up Cameron"s medicine and his DX(computer game)from Jamie's apartment before leaving town. Cameron did not take his medicine this morning and I can tell. He has been very difficut so far today and between him and his brother they have pushed my buttons today.
2:00 The boys and I picked Pawpaw up. I called Jason again to find out why he had not picked up Cameron's medicine. He said Jamie was not at home and was not answering her phone. I wondered what would have happened if there was an emergency. We went to KFC for lunch, then went back to McDonalds to let the kids play. Today's tempature was almost 100 and they have a inside playground where the kids can play in comfort. Since there are no kids in our neighborhood, this is a good place for them to play with other kids.
4:30 When we came home, Pawpaw laid down again, Cameron started playing his game on the computer and Mason started watching his favorite movie (Cars) but fell asleep.
6:30 I woke up Pawpaw and Mason from thier naps and he and the boys went outside to play pitch.
7:15 Pawpaw, the boys and I went to Walmart to shop for something for supper. While we were in the car, Jason finally called to check on the boys. Jamie has not bothered to call but then she rarely does.
8:30 We came home, I cooked supper, we ate and the boys got ready for bed.
10:15 It has been one of the most difficult days I have spent with the boys. They have fought like cats and dogs all day and they have spent more time in time out than in their room playimg. I know some of Cameron's mood is because he hasn't taken his medicine today(atleast I think its only today) and because Mason copies his brother, he has been more difficult than usual today. But I also think Cameron is beginning to realize that things are changing in his life and Jason and Jamie are not paying enough attention to him and his brother. He seems to get more attention when he is bad so therefore he acts bad. He hears more than they realize and knows what is going on. He hears the fights over Jamie's drinking. He told us today that his mom drinks alot and sometimes he see her drinking her wine straight from the bottle. It breaks my heart that he is not being allowed to act like an 8 year old but has to look out for his brother because his mom sometimes can't.

6/19/09

4:30 Jason called and asked if we would pick up the boys as he had to work late again. Once we got home, we let the boys play outside for a little while until Jason came home. At 6:30 we all went to McDonald's to eat and we let the kids play. They love to go there. Afterwards, Jason took the boys to get an ice cream and Pawpaw and I went home. Once they came home, Jason and the boys changed clothes and watched TV until time for bed.

6/18/09

5:30 Jason left to picked the boys up. Once they got home, they ate supper and played outside for a little while before Jason had to take the home.

6/17/09

5:00 PM PawPaw left to pick up the boys from daycare since Jason had to work late. Once they came home and ate, they went outside to play with Cameron's friend Ashley.
7:30 PM Jason came home at 6:30, ate supper and then played outside with the boys until it was time to take the boys home.

6/16/09

2:00 PM Jason called to let me know that he was picking the boys up early and taking them to McDonald's to eat supper and play. I know that the boys will like that. They get to spend time with their dad and get to play in the playground area at McDonald's but I will miss seeing them. I have gotten used to seeing them every day.

6/15/09

7:00 AM After getting the boys up, getting them dressed and feeding them, we took JJ to work and then I took them to school (daycare and YMCA). I spent the rest of the day cleaning the house, looking for a job, having lunch with Rusty and shopping for supper.
6:00 PM Jason returned from picking up the boys, we had supper and they played for a while before Jason took them home and then went to the gym.
8:30 PM Jason came back from taking the boys home and going to the gym. He was upset with Jamie again. Last week Jamie talked to Jason about them going to a lawyer and getting started with the divorce. They agreed to Jason paying 700.00 a month, furnishing health insurance, paying one half of any co pays and Cameron's medication. Now Jamie has changed her mind again. Apparently she has talked to her friends or is mad at Jason over some problems they had this weekend (her drinking while she had the boys). This does not surprise me. She always tries to hold things over Jason's head when she is mad.

6/14/09

2:30 AM Jason left to go over to see the boys. At 3:00 he called to let me know that he was bringing the boys home with him once he went to pick them up something to eat. Apparently they have been at the pool since 11:00 and have not had anything to eat since they had cereal when they first got up this morning. When they came in both boys were sunburned and starving. Jason had stopped by McDonalds and they ate every bite. When Jason called Jamie about their sunburn she stated that she had put lotion on them before leaving to go to the pool. I wonder if she knows that you must reapply it several times when spending a lot of time in the sun. Jason said it did not surprise him as she has been drinking. It was their agreement that she does not drink while she has the boys but she seems to overlook that agreement a lot lately. She doesn't seem to realize that something could happen to one of the boys at the pool and she might not have the reaction time needed to cope with the emergency. Since she didn't seem capable of taking care of them, they will spend the night here.
6:00 PM Jason gave the boys their bath while I fixed them something to eat. They can't seem to get enough to eat when they are here.
7:30 PM Jason had the boys brush their teeth and allowed them to watch TV a little while before going to bed.

6/13/09

7:00 AM I left to take JJ to work. Before I left Cameron got up and I told him to stay in bed and watch TV while Mason and Jason slept. When I came home, Cameron came into the living room to watch TV with me until Mason and Jason got up. Once everyone got up, I fixed breakfast(bacon, eggs and pancakes). The boys played for a while before taking a bath and brushing their teeth.
12:00 Jason took the boys home to Jamie per their agreement.

6/12/09

6:15 PM Jamie picked the boys up from daycare and the "Y" and brought them over since Jason had to work late. The boys watched TV and played on the computer while I cooked supper. Once Jason and Rusty got home we ate and then Jason and the boys played for a while before taking their bath and brushing their teeth.
8:00 Jason and the boys watched TV and then went to bed.

6/5/09

6:00 PM Jason picked the boys up from daycare and the Y and took the boys out to eat (their favorite McDonald's) before taking them see the movie UP.
9:30 PM Jason and the boys came home from movie. They really liked it. Since it was late, we let the boys change into their pj's without taking a bath. They will take it tomorrow.
They were tired and went straight to bed.

6/3/09

I have not blogged in a while since I have been sick. I went to the doctor a couple of weeks ago and was told I have had a bad upper respiratory infection, but am now on the mend. I usually get sick around this time every year. I think is must be an allergy to something in the yard because it happens when I start cleaning out the natural areas. I think it must be the pollen on top of the pine straw. I will try to start blogging again, at least every few days. Nothing much has changed here other than Cameron is out of school and attending the YMCA daily so I can look for a job. I go out every day but there doesn't seem to be anyone hiring right now.
Jason picks the boys up after work and brings them over to have supper with us, Mason watches TV(cartoons), Cameron plays on the computer while supper is getting ready. After they eat, Jason plays with them for a few minutes before taking them home in time for bed.